The vast majority of men I talk to have no trouble speaking with other men or women they’re not attracted to. And when they envision the perfect wingman, they only think of their guy friends. www.winggirlmethod.com. Or, everyone they know is afraid to cold approach women. You need to actually be friends who can hang out first. That’s extremely selfish and self-limiting. How has your past experiences made you an expert in this area? An essential daily guide to achieving the good life.

In what ways do you think men benefit by getting this advice from a woman instead? Plain and simple. Romances that didn’t work out. During this process they will also learn how to become the best, most attractive versions of themselves. Walls are built up, hurdles are placed, and baggage is jam-packed.

Your wingman needs to be able to read women’s nonverbal signals so you can tell who the girls are into. But if there’s a woman engaged in conversation with you, everybody just thinks you’re the cook or have some valid reason for what you’re doing.

Be intentional and show her your romantic interest. Because your FEMALE friends and acquaintances may be the best wingmen of all. When you invite her/her friends out for drinks or to an event next time, say something like, “Let’s go check out that Tequila bar and make some new friends.” or “I want to go mingle with people tonight. Sometimes a girl may be hesitant to go out with you alone if she hasn’t before. The approach. Co-workers. The best way to do that is to use the word “friend” early in conversation and also when you’re exchanging contact info.

Referrals are basically instant approval.

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The Scenario. “We should go talk to that group over there, they look like they’re having an awesome time.” or “I’m excited to meet some new faces, you in?”. Your pride may cause you to want to sever the connection completely and never look back. If you’re setting up something cool and people want to be apart of it, she’s more likely to want to join in on that fun. Think back to how tough it was talking to new people on the first day of school — and that's an environment where everyone shared a common background.

This is especially true if the women expressed they still want to be friends. Single women go out to social events more often than men. 6) We often tell women that men are just as insecure as we are. Don’t get jealous! If you don’t have much of an existing connection, you can make it easy as possible for them to say yes.

You also have more girls to go approach people with.

Social proof. Do you know what I am saying? So now you’ve got a girl in mind you want to start going out with.

Say you’re on a date that’s going well (in your opinion).

Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. Too often, being a wingman gets a bad reputation. But many women who aren’t sexually attracted to you would still love to create a friendship with you. I have a few friends who almost do no cold approaching at all because they just get introduced through their female friends to new attractive women regularly. It’s like a match made in heaven! I will admit that there are many women who don't understand what they want because they are too young, they don't think about it, or because they simply have no interest in dissecting it.

Do you agree with this? How can you have a healthy friendship when you’re always hoping for something more? Women trust other women for approval. By the end of the night people were mixing, mingling, dates were being set, and connections made.

There are many of them out there, but because there is so much misunderstanding and confusion from both sexes, the process can be overwhelming.

We assist a man in establishing boundaries with women, growing his social circle, improving his lifestyle and educating men on why women do the things they do. Slowly, over time, the business has morphed into what it is today and I realize how large the need is for a company like mine. That means searching for local events, meetups, or classes near you. Even short, simple conversations start to make people feel comfortable and want to talk with you. The more women are interested in you, the more valuable you become, and more women will chase you because of it. Guys (and girls! You want to showcase that you’re a social guy who likes to have fun. If they see another girl (even if they don’t know her) feeling comfortable around you, they’ll feel more comfortable, too. Our most recent book, How to Love Like a Hot Chick, strove to help women feel sexy, find confidence, and become empowered enough to find the love that they deserve, but we were pleasantly surprised to hear how many men took the advice in that book to help them find the women (or men -- we don't discriminate) of their dreams.

It doesn't matter if your buddy is looking for the love his life or the love of the next eight hours, you are there to facilitate two critical parts of "the dance.". It usually comes down to worrying about whether or not you can attract that woman and how you can avoid rejection or judgment. Come join me at Wally’s Jazz Club.”, Tell her in the moment.

I had been friends with males all my life so I was always privy to the male psyche and loved sharing my thoughts as a female. Sign up below to get immediate access to the First Date Field Manual.

It can be especially tough when moving to a new city and having to rebuild a social circle. Take the lead for her.

From there, you can suggest going to talk to them for her and bring her into the conversation or bring the group back over. This means they would put a complete stranger's worth, above his own self-worth.

Reprinted with permission from the author. First, they forget about themselves and fail to recognize their worth as soon as a woman comes into their lives. That’s where I’ve written about the “friend zone” exercise.

The approach and pairing process must be effortless and seemingly smooth. 1)It seems like most of the dating advice geared towards men out there comes from other men. Another error I am seeing men make is that they do not believe women want to be with a "nice guy."

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We sat down with Marni to pick her Hot Chick brain. When you're hitting the bars on the hunt for a girl, it helps to have a skilled buddy at your side to make sure you end up making out instead of striking out.

You holding another woman’s attention inherently makes them wonder, “Hmm…why is this guy so interesting?”. It’s just a compatibility issue. They are both confused about the process of finding a good relationship, and they can both be very happy if they would just put down their swords, let their hurdles lie down and be open to finding a wonderful partner that can give them everything they want.

If your girl is giving your wing more love, let him have her.

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I want to be upfront though — I’m just looking to make new friends.”. I've tried many different ways to start a conversation with someone, and all of them work better if you have a friend with you, which brings us to your second important job as a "wing-person"... More dating advice from YourTango Experts: This article was originally published at . It’s where you go out consistently to practice only making friends with women and desensitizing yourself to needing to “win” every hot girl. She can even bring her friends, and YOU become the awesome guy who’s cultivating a memorable experience. All Rights Reserved.

I have always been a Wing Girl, now I just do it professionally. Here are some ideas to make that happen: Give her a heads up. The first task is to decide which guy will go after which girl. That approval improves your perceived value. This way you can introduce her to guys when she may be nervous to do so herself. Forget Your Wingman, Get a Wing Girl! Therefore, you have less male competition fighting for attention and more women who are excited to talk with the few guys there. Soon, it became normal to invite them once or twice a week to grab lunch outside the office. Not all wingmen are men. The moment a girl realizes that you aren’t there to sleep with her, she drops her defenses.

But if you had a date where you both really clicked otherwise, then you should be open to it. When you don’t act in accordance with how you really feel, your behavior is insincere. When you're at a bar, party, BBQ, air guitar championship or whatever, the stakes are a little higher.

In what ways do you think men benefit by getting this advice from a woman, instead? Commit to being just friends and help one another meet new people. Walk into any environment with a girl or two around you. As the wingman (note: it's a non-gender specific title), there are two important duties that you will assist with. Why would you ever want to ask a man how a woman feels? Guys (and girls! This article was written by D.Fish, a contributer to the MingleAround website. Part of HuffPost Style & Beauty.

If you're a dude at the bar alone, unless you're Jon Hamm, you are viewed as the creepster who came alone and will go home alone. They trust the other woman’s judgement. Maybe more important than that, though, is the fact that women…. Heck, play “fuck, marry, kill” and see who she likes. You have to take the possibility of sex off the table. Few men want to approach women by themselves (even though their limitations are all in their head). Now I’m sure you’re sitting there thinking, “Well that doesn’t solve the issue of overcoming my fears of going up and talking to them! Ask her if there’s anyone within a group she finds interesting. A gay friend of mine said that the second he tells girls, “By the way, I’m gay” the dynamic shifts and the girl’s shoulders literally drop in relaxation. Go out as a group to start. We are also truly Wing Girls, and we take these men out into the real world where they can meet and interact with women, which is what makes our company so unique! Think about your past conversations and find an event, activity, or hobby that you two enjoy. I have always been fascinated with the differences and similarities of men and women.